Dating marriage sex
Are you freaked out by the idea of dating an SCD—you know, a Super-Christian Dude? But still, I find myself wary of guys (and gals) who are, you know, Christian. I have been rejected on more than one occasion by a woman who considered me to be “too Christian” for her taste, and while I won't pretend to be able to speak for these women, I do wonder how much their decisions were informed by my reality as opposed to their preconceived notions.
Have you avoided men with online profiles touting their “love of the Lord”? I’m convinced that both men and women tend to approach relationships with a set of assumptions about potential partners, and I think religion is one trait that is too often judged based upon fiction rather than fact. Christianity is the largest religion in the world, claiming 2.2 billion of the world’s 6.9 billion people, as of last year.
Every once and a while I’ll hear a woman say she'd never date a Christian.
In turn, I’ll say to them, “So if Tim Tebow or Russell Wilson walked up to you right now and asked you out on a date, you would reject them flat-out because of their Christian faith?
In other words, we’re talking about a wide range of human beings, and it would be silly to group them together into a box labeled “Undatable.”I’ve met several women who had a particularly damaging relationship with a Christian guy and have, therefore, sworn off all Christian guys.
But when they told me what exactly transpired, it turned out that for one woman, her boyfriend was manipulative and had used Christianity as a way to control her.
Another woman complained that her ex wouldn’t consider any other opinions as being valid, including hers.
Are there overbearing misogynists who seem to believe that Jesus wanted them to control their wives? But there are also plenty of Christian men who have learned by their Christian faith that both men and women have an inherent dignity and that women present unique gifts to the world where men lack.
If it sounds like I have it out for Christian dudes, well, I should tell you—I am one.
Speaking for myself and all the other SCDs who never stood a chance in this modern dating labyrinth, I think we deserve a shot. That number includes everything from Roman Catholics and Russian Orthodox to Southern Baptists and Evangelical Lutherans.
Mary Kate: It’s so crazy to me to realize that this Valentine’s Day will only be our third Valentine’s Day together. It’s weird because I feel like we’ve been married forever haha. We met nearly five years ago at a Christian summer camp back home in Louisiana.
I grew up going to King’s Camp and John Luke grew up at his family’s camp about 40 miles away, but one summer he decided to try out King’s Camp. Marian: So…MK, you’ve blogged before how the Lord answered your prayers for a God-honoring husband who is also your best friend.